Spanking Violet

For Violet and I, the discovery of spanking happened in stages. I always had a very mild spanking fantasy with my ex-wife, but never took it beyond the slight reddening of her ass cheeks while fucking her doggy style. Every once in awhile she'd lie across my lap with a naked bottom and let me have my way with her, but really the whole spanking thing wasn't for her. Some of this was just that she could never really get her head around the idea that pain, as mild as it was, could be part of pleasure.

I don't recall exactly when Violet and I got into our first mild spank session, but I do remember two things: It happened during our first trip together, and it happened after we discovered the pleasures of nipple pinching and biting. At first it was on the highly restrained variety that I sometimes guiltily practiced on my ex, but Violet responded quite differently than my previous partner. Violet, to her continuing astonishment following the discovery of nipple play, loved it.

It went like this: Violet would lie on the bed nude, her legs just partly spread, her ass wiggling in anticipation. I'd massage her ass cheeks, kneading them like dough, then lift a hand and smack one of her checks with a small CRACK!. Violet would gasp, then moan, and I massaged the hurt away... and then did it again CRACK!. Sometimes the spanks fell a little harder CRACK!--which naturally got a more robust massage after and was usually followed by a series of gentler spanks CRACK! CRACK! CRACK!. It didn't last long, after all, I wasn't the kind of man who liked to hurt a lady! I'm the old fashioned kind that likes to make a woman feel like a princess, and to me Violet IS a princess (well, you've seen the pictures, so you know).

Violet already told you about the nipple biting/pinching thing... the spanking discovery was during the same trip. Before that neither of us had any notion of pain for pleasure except for a very little sex play. Both of us are thinking people, and both like to see ourselves as particularly kind. So how does one reconcile the discovery that at least at some level we seem to like physically hurting each other?

What we learned was this: There are several components which make the spanking and the nipple play work for us. The first component is trust. By submitting to the spanking the receiver is telling the spanker that she (or he as the case may be) trusts the spanker with her body, and knows that the spanker won't give more than she can take. The second component is permission. The receiver is telling the spanker that her (or his) body is his to enjoy, that he can have a certain amount of license with her, that for the moment at least, she's willing to share it with him.

The third component is a bit more perplexing. There seems to be some kind of primal communication going on when engaging in spanking or nipple play of the type we do. I imagine (without any real anthropological evidence) that its origins lie in pre-human communication. Violet and I experience an intense sense of connection, of oneness that we simply don't experience other ways. The effect is profound, and leaves us in awe each time we experience it.

By about the third time we traveled together, Violet and I had pretty much gotten over the head trip about hurting each other, at least we had gotten used to the simple fact that it worked for us. The nipple play continued for both of us, but we were ready to go to the next level with spanking. We learned how to warm up to it: start slow, let her (or him) warm up to it, and pay attention to body language--let her tell you when she's ready for more. In a large hotel room in one of the many cities we visited this year, Violet showed me she could enjoy full swing spanking CRACK! interspersed with milder spanking and lots of love and tenderness. Her body language as well as her moans and gasps told me where the line was. If you and your partner try spanking, pay attention to what your partner is telling you! It's ALL about communication!

That was an amazing day, wasn't it Violet?

About 85 percent of the time Violet and I are an ocean apart, but that doesn't stop us from enjoying a little long distance spanking. When we're in the mood, I usually find some pretext to "punish" naughty Violet, and she goes and guiltily gets her hairbrush with the paddle like back, bares her beautiful ass in front of the web cam, and proceeds to redden her ass as per my instruction. She warms up slowly with a few gentle spanks, feeling the familiar warming of her bottom, as I begin instructing her "harder! The other side now! Ok, rub it better for me darling... enough! Redden that ass for me now, I want to see it glow!" All the while Violet teases her clit with her free hand, or slides a couple of fingers into herself for her pleasure and mine, until she gets to the point that despite my warnings of harder spanks, she pauses and very loudly cums wildly. It usually doesn't take but a second or two before I do the same.